Life is like an onion

Our lives are incredibly rich because our experiences, conversations, and thoughts take place in many different layers. I like the visual image of an onion, which is composed of concentric layers. As we dive deeper in the onion we encounter new layers. What are the...

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Your confidence is a gift

For 14 years I was a firefighter in Genesee Fire Rescue. The last 2 years I served as Fire Chief. In that role I was responsible for the safety and wellbeing of our firefighters and the public. Given the risks involved in firefighting, this responsibility weighted...

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Controlling the urge to control

The Dutch movie De Beentjes van Sint-Hildegard—translated as The Marriage Escape—is about control. It is about a middle-aged couple where the wife is extremely controlling. This runs in the family. There is a scene early in the movie where the wife and her mother—a...

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Leaning into trust

Do you remember the time when you were learning to ride a bicycle? If you were like me, you probably went through a process of falling and swerving while desperately trying to maintain your balance. And then one moment you probably discovered that you did not need to...

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The art of pottering around

I recently spent an afternoon with my granddaughters, ages 5 and 7. We first went to the playground where they played and made friends. I watched them, read a book, talked to parents, and consoled the girls after they hurt themselves. We then went to an ice cream...

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Thank you for not taking it out on me

December 17 was a stressful day. The hernia surgery that I had that day was rescheduled to an earlier check-in time at 5 AM. The surgeon was concerned that the powerful storm that would move in later that day would cause a power failure, and she wanted her team to be...

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Are you impersonating?

On a morning run I encountered a heron standing on a log with its wing spread. This behavior is uncommon for a heron, this posture is akin to the behavior of cormorants who spend much time with their wings spread after they have been diving for fish. This heron was...

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What’s wrong with this picture?

We were visiting friends in Australia. I enjoyed the landscape with Eucalyptus trees and groups of kangaroos and took the photo below from the backseat during a drive where you can see a vegetation that is very different than it is in the United States. Before you...

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Rooting out self-sabotage

Close to my home in Eugene is a scene that stopped me in my tracks. On Columbia street there are railroad tracks of the tram that used to run there. In the middle of the tracks is a huge utility pole. The scene is funny because of its absurdity. The presence of the...

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Having an accountability partner

It was a bitter cold Colorado day, one of those days where you want to bundle up inside and watch the winter weather from behind thick glass. There was only one problem: I had committed myself to a run with my running buddy. Reluctantly I put on several layers of warm...

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